A friend went into the hospital after three weeks of being ill. Her nutrition levels were very poor and no wonder she got so feeble. Some of her closest friends (and family) learn about her condition about a week ago. She did not believe in main stream medicine or in asking for help. Things went to the worst and friends took action.
I am glad she is recuperating at the hospital where she will have proper care to get her back to her own self. (And to carry on living with her believes).
The whole issue has brought a few lessons to consider:
- If we close ourself, withdraw to much from the others (family, friends,...) we may end up pretty much alone and at times, unable to cope with some of the things life can bring about.
We may also hurt family and friends for they can feel that for whatever reason there is no connection. A sense of separation is likely to arise, which would be detrimental for all. We need to learn to ask. We are part of a collective and what happens to us, happens to others. When other help us, they are also helping themselves!
On the other hand, we don't allow others to experience the joy of giving and sharing and the growth that comes from it.
We can not think only about ourselves, we are all connected, and more so to friends and family. The “I don't want to worry them” is just an illusion that can be very close to avoidance or other personal issues. It just does not work, at least not in the long run...
- By sticking to our believes in a fashion that goes beyond present evidence and common sense, we may very well do wrong!
Believes should be revised and review and if needed they must be changed. The use of the critical mind should be a frequent exercise.
There is nothing wrong with principles and believes but they should not stand on their own, like tyrants, having the only and definitive saying in all life matters. It is not that our believes are wrong but they can not become over-comprehensive, universal and applicable at all times. In extreme situations some extreme action and thought could be needed and we would do right if we assume the conditions and situations we can be placed to face. Believes and principles are for humanity. They are guidelines, but they are not there for us to serve them blindly. Moderation is a key element when having to make decision in certain situations. Sticking to a believe that is harming us and not changing it can be a manifestation of how locked up inside ourselves we can become. Shutting up and locking ourselves away is not only a physical description it also applies and maybe more so to emotional and mental attitudes.
- Life, everyday we live has a purpose. The ending of a stage of a cycle does not mean that purpose is non existent. There is always a purpose. What needs to evolve and / or adapt is our ability to see and understand our life purposes.
Of course there are dark times when we can not “see” purpose. Sometimes we go through “blind” transitions, but just because we don't “see” something it is non-existent.
All this is part of a normal process and cycles are a natural part of it. We must learn to envision purpose and our current situation and what lessons we need to learn. Nobody has learned all there is to learn in a life time as there is no life that is purposeless.
We can't give up on life for Life never gives up on us.
PS. A short poem:
Above a leave hangs from a branchA soft breezeBelow the pond ripples.